life is what happens when…

Let’s get personal.

I feel like this has been happening to me quite a bit lately, but this post started off much differently.

My original post (that’s still sitting in my WordPress draft folder screaming ‘publish me instead’) was a much more straightforward and informational essay on the state of my financial health as a small business owner. Now, before you yawn and get ready to swipe through this article, my intentions were this: One of the most frequently asked questions I get, is around how I decided to finally take the plunge to quit Google and to work on This Time Tomorrow full time — an answer that often gets condensed in conversation but in reality, there was a lot of number crunching, soul searching and, well, ugly spreadsheets.

Spreadsheets for tracking my overall growth. Spreadsheets for tracking projections. Spreadsheets for tracking my expenses to incomings. Spreadsheets for the spreadsheets! What was it all for? Financial peace of mind — something that wasn’t taught to me in any university class, but something that I spent a lot of time Googling and re-Googling, something that I listened to tons of Ted Talks about. In that original post, we were going to talk about financial peace of mind. How to get it. Why we (meaning millennials) seem to be lacking it. And why we don’t ever really talk about it with our family and loved ones.

And to be clear, we’re still going to talk about those things. But that’s where this post takes a detour.

I’m currently writing this from a hospital back in my hometown of Reno, Nevada. It’s 6:05 am PST on Tuesday and my mom is currently recovering from a hip replacement surgery from the day before. The past 48 hours have been a blur of last minute flights, pre-op appointments and the dreaded waiting room dance, where you can’t decide if you get another cup of coffee or survey the food options in the caffeteria one more time, as if they’ve miraculously changed. It’s been nerve wracking — feeling both helpless and responsible at the same time — for someone like a parent, who is normally the one taking care of you.

To be clear, my mom is recovering quite well and is already walking around a bunch, with her doctor estimating she’ll be up and ready in no time. Today’s post isn’t looking for sympathy about this experience (although I’d love to write something longer about it specifically as perhaps we can all relate to times when roles are reversed with parents?), but it did get me thinking a lot about statistics that I’ve read recently. Consider the following:

  • The majority of Americans are worried that they would be financially crippled by a major life event, but aren’t actively preparing for it. Over half would not be able to come up with $400 for an emergency.
  • 50% of Americans have more credit card debt than they do savings.
  • Only 15% of the population is on track to fund even one year of retirement.
  • Money is, quite unsurprisingly, the number one source of stress, yet 70% of Americans find it rude to discuss money in public settings.

The first and last points get me here, especially as I find myself in the position that I’m in, dealing with a major life event. Thankfully, there aren’t any hiccups to report — the surgery, while still major, is practically routine at this point, her doctor has been amazing and it’s thankfully all covered by insurance. I financially planned to take this trip, putting work and life on hold to a certain extent to help out as much as possible here back at home — a reality that may not always be the case for someone who perhaps doesn’t work independently/for themselves.

But what if any of the above weren’t true? What if I hadn’t put enough extra aside for this particular major life event? What if something complicates (God forbid) the recovery process? What if her insurance ultimately decides to file this differently than expected thereby covering less? They’re all things we would inevitably take in stride, but it does make you stop and think: how well prepared am I?

Now, I’m not someone who likes to sit at home worrying about every little thing that could go wrong. After all, life is a series of things that happens when you’re not looking, right? But it wasn’t until I sat down to write this post in collaboration with Intuit (the makers of Mint and Turbo Tax) for their financial health app Turbo, that I realized, I don’t know if I fully understand my financial state of the union, so to speak. Sure, I run my own business, and I like to think I’m doing all the “appropriate adult” things I should be doing for retirement, savings etc. but am I really?

For the past few weeks leading up to heading back home, I’ve been taking a good, hard look at my financial situation, my spending to saving ratio, my overhead expenses (both business and personal) — the whole works — via the Turbo app, which brings together your IRS-verified income, credit score and debt-to-income ratio to produce a holistic picture of your financial standing. In the past, I’ve viewed many of these things separately in silos, so the ability to assess the lay of the land all in one place has been eye opening.

This year, one of my biggest personal goals is to better understand my true financial health, starting first with debunking this idea we shouldn’t talk about money. I’ve found sometimes the things that give us the most anxiety or fear, tend to be the things we shy away from sharing with anyone — making for feelings of isolation or embarrassment that we’re doing something wrong. Perhaps its the effect of this hospital or the onset of my 30s talking here, but I find that to be a terrible waste of time. And perhaps you do, too?

So let’s start that now. What are some of your financial goals — big or small — this year? And how are you working toward them?

This post was in collaboration with Turbo. As always, all opinions and styling are my own. Thank you for supporting all This Time Tomorrow collaborations!

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friday favorites: click/read/shop/cook/love

Happy Friday, everyone!

How has your week been? A nasty cold took me down at the beginning of the week, and I’ve slowly been recovering through lots of tea, orange juice, and time in bed. I finally got out to a yoga class last night and a boxing class this morning, both of which were a bit tough to get through (sniffling is not fun while you’re alternating burpees and jab-cross-hooks!) but I felt great once I was done. After another yoga class this morning — trying to work in a bunch of fitness things before school starts up again for me! — I’m feeling ready to take on the weekend.

With Krystal traveling and my own lazy, bedridden state, I seem to have spent a lot more time than normal on the internet this week. So, in the spirit of self-care, I’ve decided to bring you some of the best things I’ve read/stumbled upon/tried at home/bought lately.

Also, friendly reminder, if you haven’t already, make sure to enter Krystal’s $1000 giveaway!

Relax with a good cup of coffee and browse our favorite links from the past week…

That’s all for me! Is there anything you’ve been loving from the interwebs lately? Let us know in the comments!

Have a great weekend, everyone.

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video: where to run in nyc

My whole life, I’ve been a runner. When I was growing up in Reno, Nevada, I’d run for hours out on the trails amongst the foothills of the Sierra Nevada Mountains. When I was living in San Francisco, I’d sprint (OK, attempt to sprint) up the many hills of Pacific Heights. And now that I’m living in New York, I run along the Hudson River pretty much every morning toward One World Trade Center.

Of course, this doesn’t mean I don’t have my handful of other favorite running haunts here in the city, which is why I’m excited to share today’s video. I often get emails from readers who are visiting New York and need several good running paths to map out for their trip. Typically, their email comes with a hint of desperation though, as if they’re half expecting my answer to be, “Running in New York? Go find an Equinox!”

And while, don’t me wrong, I love a good Equinox just as much as the next downtown living, green-smoothie chugging girl but sometimes, the best way to really experience a new city, is to get out in it…and sweat a little. So whether you live in the city or perhaps visiting soon, here are a few of my go-to running spots in New York, with a video to go along with it!

  1. Hudson River: My morning jam. Perfect anytime of day though, completely paved, dedicated running path — I personally love running south on it, toward One World. Such a great view and reminder that you’re in NEW YORK!
  2. Brooklyn Bridge: For your best run, I’d say carve out time for the Brooklyn Bridge if you can make it around 5:30/6am. You’ll have far less tourists and the sunrise is spectacular. Just watch out for bicyclists — they can get really aggressive if you step foot in their lane.
  3. Williamsburg Bridge: Between the two bridges, the Williamsburg is easier for runners as it’s not typically crowded with tourists. Plus, the incline at each end is pretty decent if you’re looking to practice some slow and steady hills.
  4. Central Park, Jackie O Reservoir: This will make you feel like you’re running in every movie or show that had a main character who liked to run (Charlotte York anyone?), and there’s a reason for it. It’s just stunning. I like heading here when I’m deep in marathon training because it’s basically a running track. It’s 1.58 miles around and I’ll just tune out and do laps for a couple hours.
  5. 5th Avenue, Museum Mile: I do this run more often during the summer if I happen to head to the reservoir early enough before the tourists. It’s a beautiful run if you’re looking to take in some amazing architecture along the way, between the amazing apartment buildings on one side and museum after museum on the other.

Photos and video by Eythan Maidhof 

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A thank you note + $1,000 shopping spree giveaway!


Wow, it’s been some week so far!

First, I just wanted to say how much I appreciated all your comments, emails and thoughts regarding Monday’s reader survey results post. It was beyond amazing to hear that you found the process and the insights just as helpful as I did — and I hope to continue surveys like that moving forward. I loved hearing all your ideas, both the positive and the constructive feedback, as it helps me build out content for the year ahead that we all can enjoy!

Secondly, as a small token of my appreciation for those who participated and tuned in, I’m giving away a $1,000 shopping spree to one lucky reader! This giveaway is not sponsored by any outside brand or company — I’m simply purchasing a prepaid Visa gift card with my own money — as a way of giving back to you all. When I started this blog over 8 years ago, I had no idea it would lead me down the path I’m now on — a reality that I often have to pinch myself over. And it wouldn’t be possible without the support and guidance from you all. The fact we can have such an open and trusting dialogue, like the one from last week’s survey, means the world to me. So for that, THANK YOU.

You can enter the giveaway by simply typing your email address in the widget below. For additional entries, make sure to follow the prompts that come up afterward — I’ll be giving 5 additional entries for following along on Instagram.

I’ll be selecting 1 winner at random next Wednesday, January 24 at 12pm EST and will announce here, on Instagram and on Instagram Stories.

Best of luck and, as if I haven’t said it enough, THANK YOU for your support!




OUTFIT DETAILS: Suistudio coat // Reformation dress // Zara boots (sold out, but love this pair that’s currently on sale!) // Anthropologie beret // Cafune bag // Tortoise & Blonde glasses

Photos by Nora Varcho


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Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017

We just got back from a long weekend upstate, and my head is already overflowing with things to do, ideas for the blog, and preparations for Paris Haute Couture, and OF COURSE: The Bonpoint Fall-Winter 2018 show!!! It’s that time of year again, and I couldn’t be more excited! Couture is and will always be my favorite fashion week of the season. The pace in which things go during that week is a thousand times better than the nerve wrecking and completely exhausting Ready-to-wear week. Nonetheless, I love that week too, but IF I had to make a choice, you and I know which one I would go for. Another upside is a more private one, do you know what I’m talking about…

Of course you know! It’s I think the third, no wait, it’s the fourth season we are going to Paris, as a family, because we are invited by our lovely Bonpoint family! Last season the kids made their first appearance on their runway, and both enjoyed it enough that we are going for it again this season. Me being the nervous mommy, the kids being their perfect self. So until we board that plane to this city of love, and fashion, here’s a little something to look at. James and Stella, both wearing Bonpoint Winter 2017, shot by me on our family weekend to the Catskills!

Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017

Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017

Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017

Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017

Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017

Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017

Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017

Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017

Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017

Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017

Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017

Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017

Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017

Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017 Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017

Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017

Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017

Thefashionguitar for Bonpoint Winter 2017

James and Stella are both wearing Bonpoint Winter 2017

Photography by me

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2018 reader survey results

Drumroll please…

Alright, ladies (and perhaps a handful of gentlemen?), the results are in from our very first reader survey here on This Time Tomorrow! The votes have been cast. The remarks have been noted. And I have lots of charts and graphs to show for it, that I wish I could muster together into a really cool, viral-worthy infographic for you. But, alas, in the interest of time (and my sanity), I figured I’d spare you all that. The important thing to focus on here is: WOW, this was incredibly insightful!

First things first, for everyone who took the time to fill out this online survey here (20 questions total) or the condensed, shortened version available in my Insta Stories (5 questions), I cannot begin to thank you enough. Seriously. I know this is a very oversatured market, so the fact you took time out of your day to do this for me, truly means the world. Furthermore, for everyone who filled out the open ended response questions, which I intentionally made optional as I didn’t want to burden anyone with writing out their answers, even BIGGER props to you! Each note, comment, constructive criticism, paragraph, and in some cases, mini novel, while all completely anonymous, didn’t go unnoticed or unappreciated or unfelt (in the best way possible!). It was humbling to know you cared enough to let me know what you really think! And yes, that means, the good, the bad and the ugly, as it pertains to both what I’m doing here specifically on This Time Tomorrow and your thoughts on the influencer space as a whole.

Secondly, I wanted to give a bit of context as to the catalyst behind this survey. While there were many things I valued about working at Google, I always really appreciated the transparency and the iterative nature of the company the most, from the products we were building to how teams were functioning. Each year, we’d fill out a multi-part survey (anonymously) weighing in on how we felt about a wide range of topics, including our immediate team productivity, group vision, manager relations, etc. and months later, the results would be aggregated, interpreted and shared, making for a really great, actionable roadmap for what was working, what wasn’t and everything in between. I loved that it forced us to be critical of what we were doing, to celebrate with pats on the back when it seemed to be supported and to pivot when we really needed to.


So here I am, hoping to do the same for This Time Tomorrow. Because if there’s one thing that was very clear in the open ended feedback responses, you guys are craving more realness from the influencers you follow — a fair request if you ask me as I often feel that way too, as an influencer myself. And I think the first step in that direction, is figuring out what I’m doing right and where I’m perhaps missing the mark.

With all that in mind, I’m cutting my mic off (because seriously, I’m rambling now), so we can get down on to the results! (Keep scrolling!)

About you!

  • Slice of the Pie: Between the Google Form survey here (2o questions) and the condensed Insta Stories polls (5 questions), we had well over 1,500 responses! Obviously, everything that follows is considered a population subset — it’s not truly reflective of the ENTIRE group but it’s a good indicator. Think of it as a slice of the pie, so to speak.
  • Who are you?: Well 80% of you are NOT content creators/bloggers/influencers/YouTubers yourselves.
  • Personal style: When it comes to your personal style, I noticed there was a healthy majority of those in the Madewell + J.Crew, “girl next door camp” (44.7%) and those in the high and low mixing camp (47.9%), which I can admit, I haven’t done the best job of staying true to in my personal style posts I’ve shared here in recent years (but more on that later!).
  • What draws you to blogs? As far as your main motivation behind following a given influencer, it quite unsurprisingly boiled down to style/beauty inspiration (52.7%), followed by a desire to feeling connected to like-minded women and men (17.6%) — another area I’d like to iterate on, but more on that later!

OUTFIT DETAILS: Suistudio coat (similar style here) // Zara turtleneck (similar style here) // Sunglasses (found at a vintage store in Melbourne, but similar style here) //  Levis Wedgie jeans // Tibi heels // Cafune bag


General habits

  • Reading blogs: A thing of the past? When it comes to consuming content on blogs, many of you confessed to reading primarily at least a few times a week (38.3%), if not daily (42.6%), but when it comes to your favorite platform to follow said influencers on, the overwhelming majority of you said Instagram. While it’s a bit conflicting, I can relate to this breakdown, as I spend way more time on Instagram following ALL the influencers on my radar, and spend a select amount of time on the few blogs I care to read on a daily basis (this is a huge shift for me, compared to when I started this site over 9 years ago, when I would read A TON of blogs every day on my blog roll (oh man, anyone remember those?!). This, of course, begs the question, what makes a blog worthy of that limited time you DO spend reading? More on that later…
  • Time of Day: There’s almost an equal size grouping of my early birds (those who love checking blogs/social media early in the morning) coming in at 41.2% and my night owls coming in at 42.2%. I’m toying around with the idea of publishing twice a day several times a week, and kinda love the idea of night time programming to compliment the early morning sartorial inspiration dose. Thoughts?
  • Like To Know It: Not many of you ACTUALLY use Like To Know It (63.8%), which is practically music to my ears. Not that I have anything against the platform, it’s just that since its launch, I think it’s safe to say it’s cut into a lot of bloggers’ traffic, since the incentive to visit a site for further outfit information is practically removed. One of my biggest professional goals this year (as it is every year) is to increase my overall traffic and the stickiness of my site — so when it comes to shopping my Instagrams, you can simply visit my Shop My Instagram page here.




Let’s talk about the elephant in the room: INSTAGRAM

  • iPhone or DSLR?: This question seems to get asked a TON in all the Insta Stories polls I’ve been seeing lately (for good reason) and the results came in as I expected. When asked to choose, most people prefer iPhone photos over high fidelity photos from a DSLR or equivalent camera (69.7% vs. 30.3%). By now, I’ve sure you’ve all heard plenty of anecdotal stories as to why iPhone photos perform better on Instagram — including possible algorithm favoring — but I think in general, it indicates a return to when Instagram first launched with more candid, raw, off the cuff sort of posting behavior (Eva Chen brought this up back in April when the introduced the first of several algorithm changes). While I don’t necessarily see most content creators completely returning to that, I do think there’s value in prioritizing this feedback to see how it resonates with you all.  Of course, you can still expect high fidelity photos here, on the blog, which of course, may find their way over to Instagram from time to time, but in general, I’d like to try this for a good month to see how it goes.
  • Instagram posts or Insta Stories?: I’m actually really keen to ask this question in about 6 months to see how much it’s changed (if at all). As of right now though, actual Instagram posts sneak by as the winner over Insta Stories (56.4% vs. 43.6%).
  • Live Videos or Insta Stories?: This was a landslide. Nearly 92% of you prefer Insta Stories over Live Videos, and I have to say, I agree. Very rarely do I get a notification for a live video and actually click through to watch in that moment. Most of the time, it boils down to the fact I’m busy and in the middle of something else so I can’t necessarily “tune in” for that show.


General thoughts on the influencer space

  • The Good: These questions were positioned as optional, open ended responses, so I’ll be generalizing the overall sentiment here. When it comes to the type of content folks love seeing on blogs, it really boils down to one main underlying goal: being relatable. I think now, more than ever, you dear readers appreciate it when a blogger shows that they are more than a perfectly curated feed — that they’re real, they have flaws, they have hardships, they have quirks, and above all, they’re human. To quote, (and don’t worry, we’ll have lots of quotes down below), one person wrote that they wished more bloggers would keep “being honest about their failures as well as their successes.” You all had a bunch of thoughts that laddered back up into this umbrella idea: creating relatable outfits (at price points that didn’t ONLY feature luxury items), being candid on Insta Stories, sharing actionable tips and tricks to fellow bloggers, creating thought provoking essays that perhaps go beyond an outfit and make people want to get to know you more.
  • The Bad: As far as the types of content you wish bloggers would leave BEHIND in 2o17? Well, here’s a condensed list of  themes/subjects that came up repeatedly and it goes something like this: loop giveaways (understandable), sponsored beauty content especially when it goes live the same day as a bunch of other bloggers’ posts (fair point), unboxing videos on Insta Stories (makes sense), business of blogging posts (unless there’s a unique value add), overt sponsorships that don’t fit their brand and saying “Hi guys” at the beginning of videos (this one made me laugh and nod my head a tiny bit!).
  • The UGLY: Sale roundups. Hands down, the most requested thing to STOP recapping, resharing, rounding up and generally, just talking about in the blog world. And you know what? I gotta say I agree. As someone who has consistently blogged about the aforementioned sale that shall remain unnamed and can see and understand as to why it’s a big revenue source for bloggers, I can also recognize when enough is enough and it sounds like you guys, dear readers, tend to tune out during this time anyway. Gift guides came in as a close second.
  • Finish this sentence…”When I decide to follow a blogger, it’s important to me that they…” There were so many wonderful, thought-provoking answers to this one, but my favorite was: “When I decide to follow a blogger, it’s important to me that they mirror some aspect of my life that I hold dear.” I mean, after all, we’re all looking to connect, right?


This Time Tomorrow feedback

  • The top 4 requested content categories (in order of preference): Daily outfits, personal essays (about relationships, about hardships, about LIFE etc.), travel guides and a tie for 4th place between fitness/wellness and interviews with inspiring women (like my Woman Crush Wednesday series). Personally, I’m excited this question affirmed a lot of what I want to refocus on this year, that being more relatable outfit content and more personal writing.
  • When it comes to style of photography, the majority of you would prefer approachable content (more candid, on the street, heading to coffee/meetings/work moments) over aspirational (more editorialized, stylized moments), coming in at 85.1% vs. 14.9%. I have lots of thoughts on this — and promises around it — down below in the “But what does this all mean for 2018?” section.
  • As far as what you guys want me to KEEP doing, we have: long form personal essay writing, more video content, more photos without sunglasses on, travel photography and guides, more casual, every day outfits, fitness and marathon training, ELVIS BUTT WIGGLE STORIES!
  • On the flip side, the most common things you guys think I should STOP doing are: too many editorialized shoots that end up being too aspirational, sale round ups and including too many photos in a post (fair enough!).

Letters to the editor

So many of you wrote thoughtful, detailed and actionable feedback (the trifecta!), that I wanted to share some of the highlights, praise and constructive criticism alike!

  • “The one thing I think you should STOP doing is over the top fashion posts. Again, LOVE your style and find it so so beautiful. But sometimes I really wonder where you are wearing these things. They’re beautiful to photograph, but not as “inspirational” for someone who has a desk job and a morning commute. I still go back to your San Fran, Google blogger days to draw inspiration for my work and personal life.”
  • “First of all, MAJOR congratulations on running the NYC Marathon — it’s a huge accomplishment and you should be so proud! That said, as someone who runs distance races and knows what it’s like to run a marathon, I found your blogging about the process to miss the mark and I didn’t think you gave a realistic picture of what is required to train for a marathon (or what to wear to do it!).”
  • “Less editorial type photos. They’re beautiful but not as interesting as candid photos”
  • “Opening up about life, fashion, Elvis, NYC. You have a unique perspective on life, on moving across country, on relationships. The ‘girl chat’ mentality of blogging is really nice, especially with the increase of cultivated social media, its nice to connect with a blogger because you share similar interest and paths in life.”
  • “The thoughtful essays. It’s been a rough year and we have 3 more ahead, so keep on with the woman power.”
  • “Writing! I love the way you write. I love that you can talk about fun and slightly more frivolous stuff like fashion and beauty but you also have such a unique voice and are very well written. I discovered your blog several years ago while still in college and your blog made me want to write.”

But what does this all mean for 2018?

Of course, everything above is just great feedback until you put it to work — and that’s exactly what I want to do. So here’s what I’m gearing up for, content wise in 2018 — I’m pretty excited for all of it, and I hope you are, too!

  • More personal writing: If one thing is very clear to me now, it’s that you guys are craving a more personal, one-on-one narrative here, to show that there’s plenty more past the highlight reel of Instagram. I, like many of you, have thoughts, concerns, desires, fears, anxieties and problems like the rest of humanity. Will we get into all of it? Nah, there aren’t enough hours in the day and I don’t want to DRAG you down that much. But, I’m excited to open up with more personal posts — the good and the bad — in hopes it creates more of a sense of community around these parts. You guys brought up my previous dating posts here and here, my adult acne and self-image struggle posts here, my career posts here and even some of my politically charged posts here and here as favorites. The key here to remember is that it’s quality over quantity — I want to make sure I’m producing content that I’m proud of and that I think adds distinct value to your day.
  • More everyday outfit inspiration: My next biggest takeaway? Get back to my roots. While there’s something I really enjoy about being able to style a shoot that’s aspirational and editorial in nature, I can also recognize that it can be alienating if done too often. I think somewhere along the way, I really got hooked on flexing my stylist muscle that I failed to share more of my every day, running around the city/heading to work looks that brought a lot of you here in the first place. This coming year, I like to think we can find a really nice balance of the two, perhaps with a dedicated hub here on my site to house more of my “styling work” — where I’d ideally love to style actual models for conceptualized shoots. I’ve always toyed with this idea with different photographers and I think now is the time to try it.
  • More fitness: As one reader pointed out above, my NYC Marathon training was a bit lacking, and she was, for the most part, correct. Due to a crazy travel schedule the months leading up to the marathon itself, I wasn’t quite realistic with myself as to what was feasible, both from a physical training standpoint and from a content production standpoint. While I haven’t officially signed up for the NYC Marathon again this year, I’m already planning on it and this time around, I’d love to create a more detailed series as to how I prep leading up to race day. Would you be interested in forming a virtual running club — essentially we would keep each other accountable for mileage/work outs etc.?
  • More personal Insta Stories: OK, so I need to get over this weird phobia I have of just sitting there and talking to the camera — most of the time, I just hate the sound of my voice and get oddly anxious over the 15 seconds cutting my sentences off at weird points that I end up refilming way more than its worth. That said, you guys want more candid, real peeks into every day life so I’ll give it a go!
  • More video: As you guys know, this was a big focus for the second half of 2017 for me and while the learning curve is steep and I still really have no idea what I’m doing, I’m enjoying the challenge! From my set of current videos, I can tell you guys liked the chattier ones — both the 73 Questions and my first haul video — so I’m already planning on a more quippy Q&A series as well as styling tips and tricks videos.
  • Building up my newsletter: My newsletter was another big focus for the second half of 2017, and another one where the learning curve was (and still is!) steep, but I do think my newsletter is going to become an even bigger focus in 2018 as I start releasing longer format writing and hopefully more editorial styling with models.

And that’s all I have from this year’s 2018 survey — did I miss or gloss over anything? Did you find this helpful at all? Please let me know in the comments below!

Photos by Alisha Siegel

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This is the first time I’m writing a something about the Golden Globes, and I think with the impact this season has had so far, and the direction we are going with, it couldn’t be a better moment to start. So there are basically a few important things you need to know about the 75th Golden Globe Awards, honoring film and American television of 2017: 8 female activists were brought as a +1 in support of the #MeToo movement and with that given platform for their causes, there was an all-black dress code in support of Time’s Up, Oprah made a speech that left us speechless, and – of course – this year’s Golden Globe winners

The 8 female activists that appeared on the red carpet alongside some of Hollywood’s most famous actresses were:

  • Tarana Burke – together with Michelle Williams, nominee Best Actress Drama – who founded the #MeToo movement in 2007, and is senior director of the nonprofit Girls For Gender Equity
  • Rosa Clemente – together with Susan Sarandon, who was nominated for a Golden Globe for her performance in Feud: Bette and Joan – who made her mark in politics as a political commentator and presidential candidate for the Green Party ticket.
  • Soru Jayaraman – together with Golden Globe host Amy Poehler – who is a huge advocate for restaurant workers, and fights to raise wages and labour standards in the field.
  • Tennis champion and equal pay activist – since 1970s – Billie Jean King came together with one of my favourite actresses Emma Stone. She’s also the founder of the Women’s Tennis Association.
  • Marai Larasi came alongside Emma Watson, who is the executive director of Imkaan, a British organization that fights violence against black and minority women.
  • Calina Lawrence walked the red carpet with Big Little Lies actress Shailene Woodley. Calina Lawrence is an activist for Native American treaty and water rights, amongst other causes.
  • Ai-Jen Poo, the director of National Domestic Workers Alliance and co-director of the Caring Across Generations Campaign, walked arm in arm with Meryl Streep.
  • Monica Ramirez – together with other Big Little Lies actress Laura Dern – who co-founded Alianza Nacional de Campesinas, which is an organization that works on behalf of female farm workers across the U.S.

And not unnoticed was the collective all-black “dress-code” on the red carpet. Every female actress changed their otherwise colorful or white designer dresses for – of course still the most beautiful – black ones, as a protest against sexual harassment in the workplace, and as a way to show solidarity to those who have been victims over a too long of a time spam. I must admit, I love that this happened, not only took it away from the otherwise – maybe superficial – focus on “who’s wearing what”, but mostly because all of these beautiful, powerful women, who we see as role models, and some so very much look up to, did unite, and took the Golden Globes as a platform where they together could “keep moving our society”. You can criticize this is just something that is happening now, because of media attention it has been getting over the past three months. But it’s NOT. Don’t forget that sexual harassment and inequality in the workspace ALWAYS have been there, and ALWAYS have been a big problem, however, until a few months ago, they went by too often too unnoticed, and THAT has changed. This will not go unnoticed when we – and by we I don’t only mean women, also MAN – unite and fight. We should totally take advantage of the age we live in, an age where social media runs our worlds, anyway. I’m glad tons of amazing images came down my instagram feed that night. What did you think?

Another highlight – and I’m sure you’ve heard people say “Oprah for President” the past week – was Oprah’s acceptance speech for her Cecil B. DeMille award. I’ve tried to find a good video to post here, as I believe that when you hear her speak, the real impact goes deep, but I couldn’t. Instead I found the full transcript on Harper’s Bazaar US:

“Thank you, Reese. In 1964, I was a little girl sitting on the linoleum floor of my mother’s house in Milwaukee watching Anne Bancroft present the Oscar for best actor at the 36th Academy Awards. She opened the envelope and said five words that literally made history:” The winner is Sidney Poitier.” Up to the stage came the most elegant man I ever remembered. His tie was white, his skin was black—and he was being celebrated. I’d never seen a black man being celebrated like that. I tried many, many times to explain what a moment like that means to a little girl, a kid watching from the cheap seats as my mom came through the door bone tired from cleaning other people’s houses. But all I can do is quote and say that the explanation in Sidney’s performance in Lilies of the Field: “Amen, amen, amen, amen.”

In 1982, Sidney received the Cecil B. DeMille award right here at the Golden Globes and it is not lost on me that at this moment, there are some little girls watching as I become the first black woman to be given this same award. It is an honor—it is an honor and it is a privilege to share the evening with all of them and also with the incredible men and women who have inspired me, who challenged me, who sustained me and made my journey to this stage possible. Dennis Swanson who took a chance on me for A.M. Chicago. Saw me on the show and said to Steven Spielberg, she’s Sophia in ‘The Color Purple.’ Gayle who’s been a friend and Stedman who’s been my rock.

I want to thank the Hollywood Foreign Press Association. We know the press is under siege these days. We also know it’s the insatiable dedication to uncovering the absolute truth that keeps us from turning a blind eye to corruption and to injustice. To—to tyrants and victims, and secrets and lies. I want to say that I value the press more than ever before as we try to navigate these complicated times, which brings me to this: what I know for sure is that speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we all have. And I’m especially proud and inspired by all the women who have felt strong enough and empowered enough to speak up and share their personal stories. Each of us in this room are celebrated because of the stories that we tell, and this year we became the story.

But it’s not just a story affecting the entertainment industry. It’s one that transcends any culture, geography, race, religion, politics, or workplace. So I want tonight to express gratitude to all the women who have endured years of abuse and assault because they, like my mother, had children to feed and bills to pay and dreams to pursue. They’re the women whose names we’ll never know. They are domestic workers and farm workers. They are working in factories and they work in restaurants and they’re in academia, engineering, medicine, and science. They’re part of the world of tech and politics and business. They’re our athletes in the Olympics and they’re our soldiers in the military.

And there’s someone else, Recy Taylor, a name I know and I think you should know, too. In 1944, Recy Taylor was a young wife and mother walking home from a church service she’d attended in Abbeville, Alabama, when she was abducted by six armed white men, raped, and left blindfolded by the side of the road coming home from church. They threatened to kill her if she ever told anyone, but her story was reported to the NAACP where a young worker by the name of Rosa Parks became the lead investigator on her case and together they sought justice. But justice wasn’t an option in the era of Jim Crow. The men who tried to destroy her were never persecuted. Recy Taylor died ten days ago, just shy of her 98th birthday. She lived as we all have lived, too many years in a culture broken by brutally powerful men. For too long, women have not been heard or believed if they dare speak the truth to the power of those men. But their time is up. Their time is up.

Their time is up. And I just hope—I just hope that Recy Taylor died knowing that her truth, like the truth of so many other women who were tormented in those years, and even now tormented, goes marching on. It was somewhere in Rosa Parks’ heart almost 11 years later, when she made the decision to stay seated on that bus in Montgomery, and it’s here with every woman who chooses to say, “Me too.” And every man—every man who chooses to listen.

In my career, what I’ve always tried my best to do, whether on television or through film, is to say something about how men and women really behave. To say how we experience shame, how we love and how we rage, how we fail, how we retreat, persevere, and how we overcome. I’ve interviewed and portrayed people who’ve withstood some of the ugliest things life can throw at you, but the one quality all of them seem to share is an ability to maintain hope for a brighter morning, even during our darkest nights. So I want all the girls watching here, now, to know that a new day is on the horizon! And when that new day finally dawns, it will be because of a lot of magnificent women, many of whom are right here in this room tonight, and some pretty phenomenal men, fighting hard to make sure that they become the leaders who take us to the time when nobody ever has to say ‘Me too’ again.”

Last but not least, the actual winners of this year’s Golden Globes… A too long of an amazing list to share here, but one I want to highlight, as I was there when it was first showed on the Venice Film Festival: Three Billboards. Actress Frances McDormand won the Best Actress Drama with her role in this beautiful movie. I can only say: Go see it! And if you want to know who else won, The New York Times will tell you!


friday favorites: hygge essentials


By now, I’m sure we’re all familiar with the Danish concept of hygge. A quick summation: that amazing feeling, whether you’re with those you hold dear or by yourself, at home or out and about, of being completely content and cozy. Hygge, for us Americans especially, comes into play a lot during the winter, when coziness is absolutely essential. As The New Yorker described it, “It is candles, nubby woolens, shearling slippers, woven textiles, pastries, blond wood, sheepskin rugs, lattes with milk-foam hearts, and a warm fireplace.” A.k.a, all the best things in life, right?!

This winter has already proven to be a bit nasty, from bomb cyclones on the east coast to crazy wildfires and mudslides on the west. So, as holiday lights are coming down, now is the time to wrap yourself in the Danish way of life. Check out my tips and tricks for achieving the ultimate level of cozy this winter.

Title Boxing in Cleveland — tons of locations in the US! 

Working out

I know that might sound crazy, but hear me out — we all know that nothing feels better than finishing an intense workout class, coming home, hopping in a warm shower, and changing into comfy loungewear and slipping into clean sheets. I mean, you’re cozy just thinking about it! But instead of going to the gym, perhaps give a boutique fitness class a try. I’ve been loving my ClassPass subscription right now; there are tons of great intro deals for new members (I’m currently riding on a free first month!) and some amazing classes. My favorite has been pilates, but check back in with me later today after I take a fun dance cardio class (after which I will promptly be hopping back into bed!).

My friend Grace’s lovely apartment

Lighting candles

I honestly am not sure if hygge can truly be achieved without some amazing candles. There are few things more soothing than lighting a billion delicious-smelling candles and basking in their glow. I love picking up candles at Target or Anthropologie — I’m obsessed with this orange and clove, am currently burning this brown sugar and chestnut, and have this pomander sitting on my shelf. Pick your favorite scent and let it waft through your home, instantly calming you.

My bestie Kendall perfecting her hygge

Cozy loungewear

All I’ve bought lately has either been loungewear or activewear that I only wear as loungewear. I live for a good, cute pullover, and a matching pair of joggers. I’ve also been dying for a pair of shearling slippers — does anyone else like to wear shoes around the house? There’s just something so much more appealing about sliding into a pair of fuzzy slippers after a long day.

Make coffee and a delicious meal

Treat yourself to a slow morning in — make coffee (or matcha or tea, whatever your preference) and cook a warming breakfast like shakshuka (my favorite recipe is from the New York Times) or perhaps a bowl of golden milk oatmeal. Enjoy in your cozy home, like my friend Grace’s, featured above, and feel completely content!

What are your favorite ways to get cozy this winter season? Let me know in the comments! 

Photos by me

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how to kick jet lag

Oy! What a week! Between traveling back from Australia at the end of last week (an ordeal that took over 50+ hours of traveling due to nasty weather) and getting caught up on work and sleep this week, I think I hit a pretty hard wall. That wall is the lovely cold I now have, congestion and headaches and all — the complete works.

Of course, I’m pretty guilty of trying to “soldier” through things, even when my body is clearly telling me no, which is largely why I think I have this darn cold in the first place. I clocked little to no normal sleep patterns while we were in Australia (my own fault — I was optimizing for New York time for emails, for social media management, etc.) and during the day, was pretty much caffeinating my way through, as we drove from beautiful location to beautiful location (don’t get me wrong, I’m certainly not complaining, just recognizing the fact I have a hard time ‘relaxing,’ even while on vacation).

I plan on writing a longer, reflection post about this latter issue of mine — that being the inability to just CHILL sometimes (perhaps you suffer from it too?) — but in the meantime, I wanted to focus today’s post on how I’ve been tackling my jet lag and head cold. True to form, I’ve  been taking this “downtime” opportunity to at least get somewhat caught up on email as well as reading through your responses from Monday’s reader survey (a huge thank you to everyone who has filled it out so far, by the way!).

But I’ve accumulated a handful of tricks over the years that have helped immensely when it comes to forcing yourself to readjust your inner time zone. They say it takes your body roughly a day for each time zone crossed to recover from jet lag. Given that Melbourne is a full 16 hours ahead of New York, I have my work cut out for me this time.

So, in no particular order, I give you my 5 tips for kicking jet lag. And, of course, I’d love to hear what’s helped you guys with your jet lag! Share in the comments below!


Photos by Alisha Siegel

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